AmyTylda

Hi, this was written by my friend Ehiane about nurturing friendships Enjoy!        We do not get to choose our family, but we have a say when it comes to choosing our friends. Friendship, to me is one of the best relationships there is, and this is probably why I have a lot of friends. I have friends older than me, friends younger than me, and friends in my age group. Boyfriends come and go, but friends are always going to be there. I am very intentional about my friendships and maintaining friendships for me, is a huge deal. There are people that say, “we do not have to talk every time, we can go three years without speaking but we are still friends.” Are you sure sis? To me, if you have a friend that you have not spoken to in three years, you guys are acquaintances at best. Friendship is a constant and very deliberate act of being there for each other.        Anyone who knows me knows that I invest a lot in my friendships and my frien...

Hi, today's post was written by my friend Ehiane about something she has experienced recently. Enjoy while you read!        The dictionary defines ghosting as the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by, suddenly and without explanation, withdrawing from all communication. This is an experience I am quite familiar with because I have been ghosted not once, but twice.         Ghosting can be quite damaging to a person. It puts one in an awful psychological state of mind. The person that got ghosted begins to doubt themselves, they might even develop self-esteem issues, and the list goes on and on. Ghosting can be quite tricky especially when the relationship is not quite defined, so it leaves you even more confused because you ask yourself “what were we actually?”. When I say relationship, I mean it in the broad sense because ghosting does not just happen in romantic relationships. It occurs in platonic relat...

           I initially wanted to title this post “How to know when a person is toxic for you” but after putting some thought to it, I decided otherwise because I realized “Toxic” is quite a strong word. We tend to just throw it around without realizing the gravity of it. Toxic- Extremely harsh,malicious or harmful-Merriam-Webster Dictionary Let’s just say in life, you’re bound to come across and form connections with people that don’t give you "good vibes". The fact that they don't give you "good vibes" is enough to distance yourself from them and if their presence in your life is detrimental to the extent that it's "toxic" you can cut them off completely. Mind you this doesn't necessarily make them bad people, it just means they're not good for YOU.            Navigating my way through life all these years, I’ve come across some people I’ve had to let go of and there are people that have had to let go of me as w...

    Hi guys, today's post was written by my dear friend Ehiane in which she talks about Navigating relationships in your early 20s. Read and enjoy!     Disclaimer: I am in my very early 20s and I have very little dating/relationship experience so I’m not an expert on this in any way.       Now that the disclaimer is out of the way, I’m going to be writing about navigating romantic relationships in your late teens and early 20s. Relationships are important but not quite as important as accomplishing your personal and professional goals so my first advice is to put off dating till you’re actually really ready to date which for me is going to be when I’m 80 years old. I’m kidding, but not really lol. We’re at the age where almost all our friends are dating/meeting people and most of the conversations we have with our friends now are about relationships and meeting boys/girls. From my writing, one can rightfully surmise that relationships are not my cu...

“ The quickest way to get over a man is to get under a new man ” some say.                 I can’t really comment on how effective it is but theoretically it makes some sense. As with all things, I guess people are different hence have different ways of dealing. Now, heartbreak can be really rough, icky, draining, damaging, stressful, painful, gut-wrenching, depressing and you name it. At times though, I believe it can be clarifying, strengthening, help you re-organize your life, give you a sense of purpose, prepare you for the future, help you discover yourself, help you become a better you and help propel you to exactly where you need to be.         As with a lot of people, I’ve been there before and it wasn’t pretty, AT ALL. You hear about so many coping mechanisms but at that point, I only found a few appealing. I had to take a little bit from here and there and add a little bit of mine to figure out how to cope in...

Just in case you have trouble viewing the above image, it says:       “Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you how to love yourself, to make you feel better for a while or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep going and thank them for what they’ve given us”-Emery Allen          For the most part, I think we as humans have been societally conditioned to romanticize the idea of “happily ever after” and so when something doesn’t lead to forever, we whine and complain, feel ashamed, get angry, bitter, pained and so on. We somehow believe that because a connection doesn’t lead to happily ever after it was a complete waste of time. I've come to realize that the fact that something doesn't last doesn't m...