AmyTylda

                  We’ve all heard the phrase “Choose your battles wisely”. To choose one’s battles wisely: To actively choose not to participate in minor, unimportant or overly difficult arguments, contests or confrontations, saving one’s strength for those that will be of greater importance or in which one has a greater chance of success-idioms.freedictionary.com              Often times in life, we’re faced with situations where it feels like a number of things are “attacking” us at once or at times it might just be one thing rearing its ugly head at us. If you’re not careful, you might be tempted to go after all of them. This will most likely end up making you feel drained and discontent because of a truth, not every battle in life is worth fighting. Not everything is worth devoting your energy to. So how then do we figure out the battles worth fighting and the ones we should let go?   ...

           I initially wanted to title this post “How to know when a person is toxic for you” but after putting some thought to it, I decided otherwise because I realized “Toxic” is quite a strong word. We tend to just throw it around without realizing the gravity of it. Toxic- Extremely harsh,malicious or harmful-Merriam-Webster Dictionary Let’s just say in life, you’re bound to come across and form connections with people that don’t give you "good vibes". The fact that they don't give you "good vibes" is enough to distance yourself from them and if their presence in your life is detrimental to the extent that it's "toxic" you can cut them off completely. Mind you this doesn't necessarily make them bad people, it just means they're not good for YOU.            Navigating my way through life all these years, I’ve come across some people I’ve had to let go of and there are people that have had to let go of me as w...

           I know some time has passed but we’re still in January so I figured it’s not too late to talk about New Year Resolutions. I randomly stumbled on a book I used to write in around 2014/2015 and as I was flipping through, I came across the New Year Resolutions I made for 2015. I know a lot of people make a mockery of New Year Resolutions, they find making them a waste of time because a lot of them feel it’s impossible for a person to actually make positive changes in their lives through them.              There were 13 things on that list I made at the end of 2014. I noticed that out of 13, I achieved 9 of them i.e 69% in 2015, 8 of which I achieved wholly and 2 half way. Between 2016 and now, I achieved one and half more. The deadline for the 11th goal passed in 2015 because I was too chicken to go for it, leaving me with one and half unaccomplished as at now.          This litt...

     Hey guys, sorry for the hiatus. The last week of the year and first week of a new year are usually periods of deep reflection for me especially since my birthday falls within that period. Haven’t been able to write much mainly due to that but I’m back now.      So, this is something that has always bothered me for a couple of years now and I decided to write on it today. Growing up, I noticed there’s this subtle shame/reservation  people have towards methods of giving birth/having a child other than the natural “push method”. These methods I’m talking of are Caesarean sections(CS), In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) and Surrogacy. A good number if people make it seem like women that opt for these methods are somehow weaker, incomplete or that the babies are abnormal. To be honest though, I actually bought into that ideology when I was much younger (probably due to societal conditioning) but as I grew up and began to think for myself, I realized how fl...

         2018 was a rollercoaster of a year! When I sit and reflect I realize that this year was quite long because A LOT of things happened. This year I became bolder, more confident, self-assured, vocal, discerning, resilient, tougher, more mature (well to an extent because the petty in me cannot go away so easily). I learnt more about my weaknesses and strengths and how to harness them for good, put myself first more often, put myself out there more, met some amazing people, strengthened some old bonds, became more appreciative of the people I have in my life. I also learnt a lot of lessons some of which I decided to share below: 1. Open your mouth and talk because: i. Closed mouths don’t get fed       Anything you want in this life, open your mouth and ask for it boldly. The same way you will not be able to eat if you mouth is closed is the same way many things won’t come your way unless you open your mouth and ask for them talk to ...

    Hi guys, today's post was written by my dear friend Ehiane in which she talks about Navigating relationships in your early 20s. Read and enjoy!     Disclaimer: I am in my very early 20s and I have very little dating/relationship experience so I’m not an expert on this in any way.       Now that the disclaimer is out of the way, I’m going to be writing about navigating romantic relationships in your late teens and early 20s. Relationships are important but not quite as important as accomplishing your personal and professional goals so my first advice is to put off dating till you’re actually really ready to date which for me is going to be when I’m 80 years old. I’m kidding, but not really lol. We’re at the age where almost all our friends are dating/meeting people and most of the conversations we have with our friends now are about relationships and meeting boys/girls. From my writing, one can rightfully surmise that relationships are not my cu...

        We’ve all heard some variation of the above statement. While I have always believed women should have equal rights, I didn’t always want the feminist label. Why didn’t I want the feminist label you may ask? Well there’s a negative connotation surrounding the term “Feminist” and I didn’t want to be identified as such. People see feminists as bitter, angry, men haters who just want to dominate the world and make all men kiss their feet and I didn’t want to be identified as such.             Fast forward to 2014 when Beyoncé released Flawless ft Chimamanda Adichie. I was jamming to the song like any other person and then a snippet of CNA’s TEDx talk came up in which she defined Feminist as: " Feminist- A person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes”            So simple, right? It was at that point I realized that I had never bothered to find out what feminism me...